Question: I’ve done something that I thought would come later in life. I’m three months pregnant now, and later I’ll have to stop school for a few months.
I don’t know what to think. I’ve considered getting an abortion, but I just can’t do it. I made it, so I’m going to have to raise it.
The Lord gave this to me for a reason, but I just don’t know why. Can you give me any Bible passages that can help with this little situation?
Answer: The first Bible passage I think of is 1 Peter 5:7: “Cast all your anxiety on him [God] because he cares for you.” Here’s another one: “My God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches” (Philippians 4:19).
I like this one too: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God” (2 Corinthians 1:3, 4).
Now I’d like to respond to some of your statements that led to your request for some Bible passages.
It sounds as if you were taken by surprise when you became pregnant. I’ll state the obvious: when you have sex, you always increase the chances of becoming pregnant. The only person I know who got pregnant without sperm was Mary, Jesus’ mother (see Luke 1:26-36).
I hear you taking some responsibility for becoming pregnant (“I made it, so I’m going to have to raise it.”). Yet then you seem to blame God (“The Lord gave this to me for a reason, but I just don’t know why.”).
That makes me wonder, How did the Lord give this to you? The reason you became pregnant was that you had intercourse—not because the Lord was trying to give you something.
You mentioned that you considered having an abortion and decided not to. I want to say “Thank you!” When people are taken by surprise with a pregnancy, it usually seems as if all the options are bad ones. Yet you’ve chosen life in this situation, and that’s a very good choice!
Becoming pregnant changes your life forever. It’s a big thing—which also means sex is a big thing! In fact, it’s bigger than most young people realize.
Here’s some really good news, though: you’re giving life to someone. It’s a powerful experience!
Concerning your idea that God is trying to teach you something, I think God is always trying to teach us things. Your instruction will now come with an emphasis on being an awesome mom.
This may not be what you planned or expected. I’m certainly not going to blame God for your choices (and neither should you). But God can make something wonderful out of even our bad decisions.
Consider what Jesus did with His disciples. And you’ve probably seen what God can do today, too. He’s eager to do something wonderful with your life and with the life of your developing child.
Here are some more encouraging passages for you: Isaiah 41:10; Jeremiah 33:3; Psalm 55:22; Romans 8:31-39; 2 Peter 1:3, 4; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 3:20, 21; Psalm 68:19.